Getting things off my chest…

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For starters, let’s just say that I don’t want to make this post pro or against breastfeeding. That’s not the point and actually, I think we all should stop making that the main issue.
As women, we should support each other in whatever choices we make. I believe that, for the most part, women are trying to do the best they can when it comes to their kids…and although we might not all always agree, we shouldn’t go around making each other feel bad about the different choices. So whether you chose to breastfeed till 2 years or non at all, the choice (and I support it) is yours!
For me, the main issue is the fact that we live in a society where the breast is totally objectify. Marketing and ad agencies rack their brains as to how to insert more sex into their campaigns. Women go under the knife to get “the” perfect breasts. Breast are essentially everywhere we look. I live in Miami…and trust me, you can’t go very far without seeing a super voluptuous woman in an itty bitty top. And I don’t really think that many people bat an eye to such a sight. We’ve grown accustomed to such visions. Yet, the main purpose of a female breast is to provide food for a baby. I’m breastfeeding (it has been a trying journey to say the least, but that’s another post) and yes, I feed my baby in public…and believe me, people most definitely bat an eye when they see that.

We’ve normalized “sexifying” the breast and yet the most normal purpose of it has become “unnormal”. Just the other day, a man saw me breastfeeding my daughter and asked if he could have the other one (all while making a kissing sound). It took everything I had not to kick or slap him. I mean, is this what we as society have created? A place where the breast is a sexual object and not known or respected for its most important function?

The only way this can change is if we, society, stop seeing the breast as a totally (and only) sexual object. I will do my part to help normalizing the normal. I will shamelessly breastfeed my daughter in public. I may or may not cover up. I won’t go hide in a corner or in a bathroom so my baby can eat. She’ll eat in public, at the table of the restaurant, on the plane, at the park and anywhere else she wants….because what I’m doing is not wrong, it’s not gross, it’s not shocking or indecent. It’s natural. So, can we please all just get over it?
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  1. July 7, 2013 / 6:27 pm

    Martha, I agree 100%. It’s actually illegal in some states to breastfeed in public without a cover up- which I think is ridiculous. Not only is it natural and beautiful but it’s the healthiest for your baby, and people should encourage it instead of shaming it. Not to mention that feeding in a bathroom is gross- nobody would eat their dinner in the restroom, why should they expect your baby to?

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  2. July 7, 2013 / 9:18 pm

    That last pic is so beautiful, a mother breastfeeding a child is such a beautiful thing to see. I really don’t get how people make a big deal out of this, it is such a natural thing and I grew up seeing women around me breastfeeding their kids wherever they were. Next event you need to bring baby Mia with you, she’s so precious.
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  3. July 7, 2013 / 10:18 pm

    This is such a lovely post Martha. I’m not at this stage in my life (yet) but I love seeing this from your perspective. Hey, a girl has got to eat, and if Mia is hungry who cares where you have to feed her! :)
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  4. July 8, 2013 / 12:42 am

    Gorgeous photo of you and baby!

  5. July 15, 2013 / 8:46 pm

    Love this post! Thanks for dropping by my blog I’m so glad to be back on yours! Congrats on the baby I’ve loved the posts! I feel you 100% with the breastfeeding, so sad that we’ve forgotten what the normal biologic purpose of our breasts are!

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  6. July 16, 2013 / 12:17 pm

    I love the black and white photo and I cannot believe that surly man said that to you. I wish you spat at him! And yes, the boob’s most primitive, most raw and real state is when it is breastfeeding. Bravo to this earnest post!
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